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PERSONAL WELCOME FROM DR. PADILLA 

GETTING STARTED 

****** THE “KEYS” TO UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIPS  *****

[1] What Causes Attraction?          

[2] A New Model of Attraction

[3] The Temporal Order & Skill Sets

[4] The Law of Reversed-Effort 

[5] Principle of Least Interest  

[6] Love Hate  & Indifference 

[7] The Saturation / Deprivation Proposition 

[8] Pain vs. Pleasure 

[9] Conditioning Index 

[10] Random Reinforcement 

[11] Gender Differences 

[12] Goffman 

INTRODUCTION TO ERVING GOFFMAN 

ROLES 

IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT 

[1] Elway vs The “Boz.”

[2] EASY-E  versus SNOOP DOGG & DR DRE 

[3] Checking into the San Diego Marriott Hotel 

[4] Visiting the USMC Museum

[5]  The First Day of Class

[6] Getting the Card Signed

FRONT STAGE

BACK STAGE 

PERFORMANCE 

PROPS 

SCRIPTS 

“GIVING”  

“GIVING OFF”

COVERING MOVE 

UNCOVERING MOVE 

COUNTER-UNCOVERING MOVE 

INVOLVEMENT CONTOUR 

 

                

ESTABLISHING A RELATIONSHIP

 

THE LANER ELEVEN 

[1] Companionship  

[2] Intimacy  

[3] Freedom / Choice  

[4] Fun / Good Times 

[5] Romance / Love 

[6] Security 

[7] Specialness 

[8] Learn About New Partner

[9] Mutuality 

[10] Personal Growth 

[11] Sex  

                          

MAINTAINING A RELATIONSHIP

 

THE PADILLA 6

[1] “Collecting Running Water“

[2] Have a Backbone! 

[3] Jealousy 

[4] Honesty

[5] Relationship Identity Merger 

[6] Stimulation 

THE SIX STAGES OF LOVE  (** surprise**)

SOME COMMON POWER STRUGGLES

[1] MONEY (no separate page)

[2] SEX (no separate page)

[3] BOOZE & DRUGS (no separate page)

[4] FRIENDS (no separate page)

[5] FAMILY (no separate page)

[6] MOTIVATION (no separate page)

[7] CAREER (no separate page)

[8] AGE (no separate page)

[9] CHILDREN (no separate page)

 

 

                    

HOW BREAKUPS UNFOLD OVER TIME (The Basics)

 

THE BREAKUP: A Guide and Road map

HURT: YOU DON’T HAVE A CHOICE

UNCOUPLING (Vaughn)

“INITIATOR” vs “PARTNER” 

WHAT IS CONSIDERED PROGRESS DURING A BREAKUP?

TRANSITION PERSON

FRIENDSHIP LOYALTY 

BREAKUP TIMING (general)

DIVIDING UP OLD HAUNTS

TRANSITIONAL ITEMS (general)

SHOULD YOU DATE MORE OFTEN?

                        

BREAKUP (Phase-1) DENIAL 

 

REVISIONIST RELATIONSHIP DISORDER 

DUMPER’S REMORSE

TRANSITIONAL ITEMS  (Phase -1)  

TEMPTED TO REMAKE YOURSELF

DID YOUR EX GIVE YOU BACK YOUR “STUFF”?  

BREAKUP TIMING (Phase-1)

TEMPTED TO END THE PAIN   

SLEEP-APPETITE-WEIGHT

                        

BREAKUP (Phase-2) FACE THE FACTS

 

TRANSITIONAL ITEMS (Phase-2)

THE REBOUND  

BREAKUP TIMING (Phase-2)

THE SADNESS WILL DECREASE: I GUARANTEE IT

TEMPTED TO PLAY WITH OLD “SITUATION“

                        

THE BREAKUP (Phase-3) EMPOWERMENT & CLOSURE

NEW MEMORY DOMINANT

EX SHOWS UP 

BREAKUP TIMING (Phase-3)

TRANSITIONAL ITEMS (Phase-3)

RELATIONSHIP “Extras”

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• Controlling People
• It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken

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CONTACT INFORMATION 

SUGGESTIONS 

     GRAND CONCLUSION 

                          

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 MAINTAINING: Staying in a relationship … 

  BREAKING UP: Getting out of a relationship…

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